gender studies

being at the after-party of some slam with my colleagues, we all are perfectly happy, chilling, dancing, drinking...

now, here’s a question for the guys out there:

why on earth would you, if you have a girlfriend and consider yourself really happy, be your most charming self and hit on a girl heaviliest?
with all the dancing close, kissing cheeks, and flattering her all the time, again and again?

with me, of course, i know, you know, they know:

i don’t fall for flattery too easily, i rather take it as a joke and have a good laugh over it with the next drink.
also, i respect other people’s relationships and therefore hold up the boundaries, when actually that should be the guy’s job.

so, no harm done.

but still i’d like to know:

what’s the purpose??

as a girlfriend, i would just hate it!! and like most other women turn into the wicked witch of the east again.

it's not just that you don't trust the guy in really being "only playful", it's much more not trusting the girls here:

what if lil' precious falls for it?
what if she replies?
what if he feels flattered?
what if he then is just too drunk? (to say no, of course, not to get it up... but thanks for the hint!)

...

okay, maybe it is all just a matter of genetics and guys can't help it, but, please:

get a hold of yourself!

for all the “all play, all fun” –
eventually will hurt someone.